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Let’s face it, as parents, uncles, aunties, or even older siblings, we’ve all handed a kid a screen at some point just to get a moment of peace. I’ve done it. You’ve probably done it. But the question keeps coming back to haunt us: What is all this screen time doing to our kids?
Well, I recently dove into a massive international study, I'm talking nearly 300,000 kids tracked across five decades, and let me tell you, the findings are eye-opening.
Screens & Emotions: It’s a Two-Way Street
The research, published in Psychological Bulletin, didn’t just say “screens are bad.” It went deeper.
Kids who spent more time on screens, TVs, tablets, gaming consoles, you name it, were more likely to develop issues like:
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Aggression
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Anxiety
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Low self-esteem
But here’s the kicker: the connection also works the other way. Kids who were already struggling emotionally or socially tended to spend more time on screens in the first place. It’s a cycle that feeds itself.
Gaming Was the Strongest Link (But Not for the Reason You Think)
One of the study’s authors, Dr. Michael Noetel from the University of Queensland, shared an interesting insight: It wasn’t just violent games causing problems. In fact, many studies didn’t even focus on game content. It was the overall time spent gaming, regardless of genre, that showed the strongest link to emotional issues.
That surprised me. Like many parents, I used to think, “As long as the game’s not violent, it’s probably fine.” Turns out, it’s not just about the content. It’s about how screens are used, and how often.
How Much Is Too Much?
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends:
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1 hour per day of recreational screen time for ages 2–5 (on weekdays)
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Up to 3 hours on weekends
But the reality? Over 40% of kids aged 8–12 are racking up more than four hours every single day. That’s where the red flags start to show.
According to ABC’s Chief Medical Correspondent, Dr. Tara Narula, we’re now seeing more mental health issues in children than ever before, and half of all disorders begin before age 14.
The Good News: It’s Not About Zero Screens
Before we all panic and toss our tablets into the nearest river, here’s something reassuring: it’s not about eliminating screens altogether. (I mean, let’s be real, screens are part of life now.)
When kids use screens in moderation, especially for educational purposes, the risk for emotional or social problems drops significantly.
The key is balance.
Kids should still:
- Get plenty of physical activity
- Sleep well every night
- Socialize offline
- Develop other outlets to process their emotions, like talking, drawing, or even just being bored sometimes
So What Can We Actually Do as Adults?
Here are some tips I’ve picked up (and am still learning to follow myself):
1. Set loving limits
It’s okay to say “no” to that fifth episode of a cartoon. Just do it with warmth, not control.
2. Lead by example
If we’re constantly glued to our own screens, it’s hard to tell kids to unplug. (Yes, I’m looking at myself here.)
3. Swap, don’t snatch
Replace screen time with other fun options. Build a blanket fort. Go for a short walk. Make smoothies together. Kids don’t always resist limits, they resist boredom.
4. Check in, don’t just check out
If your child is gaming or watching YouTube, sit with them occasionally. Ask what they’re watching. Be curious, not judgmental.
The Bottom Line?
This study is a massive wake-up call, not a guilt trip.
Screens aren’t the enemy, but using them as an emotional crutch without boundaries? That’s where things get tricky.
The more we stay present, set healthy limits, and support our kids in building offline coping tools, the more resilient they’ll become. That’s the goal, right?
So next time you're tempted to hand over the iPad, just pause. Maybe offer a high-five and a game of Uno instead.
(And hey, if they still end up watching Bluey for 20 minutes while you finish cooking dinner, it’s okay. You’re doing great.)